It seems strange to think we have to work at bonding with our own souls. Shouldn't it just be automatic? Doesn't it happen naturally, with no conscious effort on our part? No, not in this world at this time. Not really.
My own soul is a stranger to me if I don't seek it out and get to know it. Being invisible to my physical eyes, it's out of sight and mind. For me, the solution is prayer. I pray to God to help me get to know my soul, to understand it and make the best decisions for it. I want my soul to flourish and prosper as much as I want my body to be healthy.
Rabbi Simon Jacobson talks about bonding with our own soul in his book, A Spiritual Guide to the Counting of the Omer: Forty-Nine Steps to Personal Refinement - The Forty-Nine Days of Sefirah. He writes, "To cultivate your capacity to bond, even if you have valid reasons to distrust, you must remember that G-d gave you a Divine soul that is nurturing and loving and you must learn to recognize the voice within, which will allow you to experience other people's souls and hearts."